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there are kai - sister(s), brother(s), mother, father, & grandparents,
it's someone who is really close to you relate them to as sister, etc.
just like a family member but are not blood related or can it? im not
sure. if u say kai ma (mother) i guess in english it would mean
godmother.... sorry im bad at explaining.
Woodstock
IP: 218.103.206.218
Apr 8th, 2004 - 6:46 PM
Re: Meaning of 'kai'
"Kai" is similar to "foster", but not exactly the
same, because when you have a foster son, you might have to support him
and bring him up. But when you "kai" a son, it is not necessary
for you to do that. So we can have a "kai" sister, a "kai"
mother and etc. if we feel we like each other and want a closer relation
than just a good friend. It all depends on the age of the two. When one is
much older, then it could be "kai" mother and "kai"
duaghter; if very close in age, then just "kai" sisters.
If we really and formally "kai" someone, we might have a
ceremony, such as having dinner with 2 families together, and the "kai"
daughter has to kowtow and offer cup of tea to the "kai" mother,
and the "kai" mother will give some jewelry to the "kai"
duaghter.
But not necessary for the "kai" duaghter to change the surname.
Hope I have answered your question.
YY
IP: 206.172.66.108
Apr 23rd, 2004 - 10:43 PM
Re: Meaning of 'kai'
"kai ma" would be like "god mother" and "kai jei"
would be like "god son". Would you agree?
Woodstock
IP: 218.103.206.87
Apr 24th, 2004 - 3:44 AM
Re: Meaning of 'kai'
YY:
"Jei" meant sister, just like "jei" when we address
"Mui Jei". so "Kai Jei" means god sister.
YY
IP: 206.172.66.74
Apr 27th, 2004 - 9:03 PM
Re: Meaning of 'kai'
Absolutely! Kai Jei would be God Sister.
Wouldn't it be nice to have Anita as a God Sister....hummm....
Cat Cat
IP: 219.94.126.230
Apr 27, 04 - 3:56 AM
Classic Moment CD and VCD
Hi, could anyone in Malaysia enlighten me on where to get the Anita
Classic Moment CD and also VCD? I believe it has been release, right?
Cervical Cancer,side effects of
radiotion therapy & chemotherapy
This information enclosed is extracted from the information provided by
American Cancer Society. If you are interested in the whole article,
please refer to the website http://www.chicagogyn.com/cervical.htm, and I
recommend all of you to read it. After the reading, you will understand Ah
Mui's present physical condition better.
Of course we don't really know exactly what stage is Mui's cancer, but it
is analysed by some specialists based on Ah Mui's situation, she should be
at Stage IIB, so with a very good chance of recovery. Of course all
depends on her follow-up care after treatment, so I hope Ah Mui will read
this artclte too. But I like to stress that strong social support group
(that is her fans) and her own deep faith will help her a lot in her life
after treatment. So all fans must have faith in her and keep on supporting
her, Okay?
[Thanks for Indian Ocean in providing this website to us]
HOW IS CANCER OF THE CERVIX TREATED?
Options for treating each patient with cervical cancer depend on the stage
of her disease. The stage of a cancer describes its size, depth of
invasion and how far it has spread.
After the stage of your cervical cancer has been established, your cancer
care team will recommend a treatment strategy......The three main types of
treatment used for patients with cervical cancer are surgery, radiation
therapy and, chemotherapy. ...........
.................
Radiation therapy for cervical cancer: Radiation therapy uses high energy
x-rays to kill cancer cells. These x-rays may be given externally in a
procedure that is much like having a diagnostic x-ray. This is called
external beam radiation therapy. It also may be given as an implant of
radioactive materials near the tumor. This is called brachytherapy.
The skin in the treated area may look and feel sunburned, but this
gradually fades into a tanned look, returning to a normal appearance in
six to 12 months. Many women also notice tiredness, upset stomach, or
loose bowels. Pelvic radiation therapy may cause vaginal stenosis
(narrowing of the vagina by scar tissue), which might make intercourse
painful. Premature menopause and problems with urination may also occur.
If you are having side effects from radiation, discuss them with your
cancer care team. There are treatments to obtain relief from these
symptoms, and restore normal vaginal length.
Chemotherapy for cervical cancer: Chemotherapy uses anticancer drugs that
are given into a vein or by mouth. These drugs enter the bloodstream and
reach all areas of the body, making this treatment potentially useful for
cancer that has spread beyond the cervix. If this treatment is chosen, you
may receive a combination of drugs. Combination chemotherapy is sometimes
more effective in treating cancer than one drug alone. Drugs used in
treating cervical cancer include cisplatin, hydroxyurea, ifosfamide, and
paclitaxel. These drugs kill cancer cells but can also damage some normal
cells. Therefore, careful attention is given to avoiding or minimizing
side effects.
Side effects of chemotherapy depend on the type of drugs, the amount
taken, and the length of time you are treated. They include:
Upset stomach and vomiting (new medications given together with the
chemotherapy can prevent these unpleasant side effects)
Loss or increase of appetite
Temporary loss of hair
Mouth or vaginal sores
Increased chance of infections, bleeding, or anemia (low red blood cells)
Tiredness
Changes in the menstrual cycle
Premature menopause
Infertility (inability to become pregnant) - Note: most women with
cervical cancer are already infertile before chemotherapy as a result of
surgery or radiation therapy.
Most of these side effects of chemotherapy (except premature menopause and
infertility) stop when the treatment is over. Premature menopause can be
treated with hormones. You will need to discuss this with your cancer care
team. If you are taking chemotherapy and have side effects, there are
remedies for many of them. Be sure to talk with your cancer care team
about any side effects you are experiencing
WHAT WILL HAPPEN AFTER TREATMENT FOR CERVICAL CANCER?
Each type of treatment for cervical cancer could have side effects that
may last from a few months to many years. A woman may be able to hasten
her recovery by being aware of those side effects before treatment and by
taking steps to minimize them and shorten their duration where possible
after treatment.
From the start, keep in mind that you must deal with your own individual
physical and emotional factors. In the process of deciding what kind of
treatment to have, for instance, you will find it helpful to discuss
options with your family and friends, as well as with your primary care
physician and nurse. At every step of the way in pre-treatment, treatment,
and recovery, you should talk with your cancer care team about side
effects, ways to make them easier to endure, and the general outlook, or
prognosis, for your case. They want to answer your questions, so ask them!
Your body is as unique as your personality and your fingerprints.
Scientists can determine certain facts about tumors and drugs, and doctors
can use a variety of treatments to eliminate the cancer. But no one can
say precisely how you will respond to cancer or its treatment.
You may have special strengths such as a healthy immune system, a history
of excellent nutrition, a strong family support system, a deep faith. All
of these can make a difference in how you respond to cancer. In fact,
behavioral scientists have recently found that women who took advantage of
a social support system, such as a cancer support group, survived with a
better quality of life.
Follow-up Care
An important part of your treatment plan is a specific schedule of
follow-up visits after surgery, chemotherapy, or radiation therapy to be
sure what, if any, additional treatment is necessary.
Follow-up may involve procedures such as x-rays, CT scans, ultrasound
studies, or magnetic resonance imaging. There also may be biopsies to get
tissue samples for laboratory microscopic evaluation, blood tests, and
other examinations.
Lifestyle Factors
You can help in your own recovery from cancer by making healthy lifestyle
choices.
If you use tobacco, stop now. Quitting will improve your overall health
and the full return of the sense of smell may help you enjoy a healthy
diet during recovery.
If you use alcohol, limit how much you drink. Have no more than one or two
drinks per day.
Good nutrition can help you get better after treatment. Eat a nutritious
diet. Researchers are also finding increasing evidence of the importance
of nutrition in the prevention of cancer. Eat less fat, especially animal
fat. Most patients should eat more fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and
high-fiber foods. However, if you developed diarrhea or cramping pain
after radiation therapy, your healthcare team may recommend a low-fiber
diet.
Exercise once you are well.
If you are in treatment for cancer, be aware of the battle that is going
on in your body. Radiation therapy and chemotherapy add to the fatigue
caused by the disease itself. Give your body all the rest it needs so that
you will feel better as time goes on.
A cancer diagnosis and its treatment is a major life challenge, with an
impact on you and everyone who cares for you. Before you get to the point
where you feel overwhelmed, consider attending a meeting of a local
support group. If you need individual assistance in other ways, contact
your hospital's social service department or your local Division of the
American Cancer Society for help in contacting counselors or other
services.
Indian Ocean
IP: 218.189.167.227
Oct 29th, 2003 - 7:40 AM
Re: Cervical Cancer,side effects of radiotion therapy &
chemotherapy
Hi Woodstock
Thanks for having posted this article about cervical cancer, just want to
share some comments and ways to handle given by experts. It is just unfair
that people are guessing about her conditions, just treat her like a
normal patient and fans should be CONSIDERATE and give her as much moral
support as possible. I think this is the most important things she is
expecting on top of finding a miracle to heal her! I wish she could see
this article but I am sure there are so many around.
We may have different religious beliefs but anyway God bless Anita, be
courageous, I am sure you will overcome these ups and downs!
Piccolo
IP: 204.209.194.21
Nov 3rd, 2003 - 1:06 AM
Re: Cervical Cancer,side effects of radiotion therapy &
chemotherapy
After a long hiatus, I don't know how to begin again! But, thank you,
Woodstock, for providing us with this link. I don't personally know anyone
with cervical cancer (and I'm hoping to never know anyone who does), but I
know people who have had lung and liver cancer and I know that the
treatment is difficult for family and loved ones as well as for the
patient. The side effects can be very painful. I hope that everyone keeps
on supporting Anita. This is, of course not the kind of support that comes
with autograph signing and cd sales. I'm talking about close friends
lending a willing ear, buying her healthy foods, giving her space to rest.
Dragging her out at 1 am to a bar is not good for her, even though it is
fun. Second hand smoke is not good for her either. It is not enough to
make Anita laugh. We really have to try to help her get better.
I don't know why Anita had difficulty talking at the TVB taping. I'm going
to believe that she was tired, but she is the only person who knows the
truth. She could also be taking chemotherapy, which often tries to cure
cancer by preventing the proliferation of the cells. Well, cancer cells
are not the only ones that turn over rapidly in the body. The throat and
stomach cells do too. Therefore, a lot of the side effect that you see,
the sores in the throat (making it painful to speak) and stomach upset is
due to the inhibition of cell growth. If she is losing hair (hence the
wig) she was most like undergoing chemo treatment.
I'm not a doctor, only a student, so this is just the info that I have
picked up from observation, reading background info, and listening to med
students. However, I do know that patients undergoing chemo have weak
immune systems. (Maybe Ah Mui's white blood cell count was shot so she
needed a transfusion. Is that possible?) Therefore it made me quite mad
when Jordan insisted on kissing Ah Mui on the lips. On the surface, this
is a very supportive and loving thing to do, but it's not the wisest
course of action. Even the most healthy person is suppressing some kind of
bacteria. By kissing, he's practically passing whatever he has in his
mouth to hers. Ugh. I hope everyone takes care. Maybe we should come up
with a symbol for "We love Anita". This is probably better for
her than hugging and kissing.
Woodstock
IP: 219.76.64.2
Nov 3rd, 2003 - 4:58 PM
Re: Cervical Cancer,side effects of radiotion therapy &
chemotherapy
Aiya, Piccolo, you have gone to the moon?
Fully agree to what you said. To regain health and a full recovery from
her present ailment, Ah Mui must change her life style, cut off her night
life, should have more sun instead of moon; practice of "qi kong"
will help her too. As I know, in all HK hospitals including the HK
Sanitarium, they teach the cancer patients "qi kong" that must
be clinically proved to be helpful, otherwise they won't conduct such
classes, right?
Most important, after the concert and the movie, I hope she will take a
long break to get herself fully recharged and health fully revivified.
After all there is no such thing as super man. We, humans, are extremely
vulnerable ! Health is more important than anything else!
Piccolo
IP: 204.209.194.108
Nov 3rd, 2003 - 8:18 PM
Re: Cervical Cancer,side effects of radiotion therapy &
chemotherapy
Aiyah, cannot help it mah. Last last month was mid-autumn festival.
"Bun Yuuut" mah (yeah right, as if I was a great beauty like
Seung Oh. Well. sigh. I guess I wouldn't want to be that beautiful anyway.
Troublesome.)
I had big exam! Had to study study study. Still not 100% recuperate as I
still have trouble thinking about things not regarding my topic of study.
Didn't want to bore the forum to tears. Otherwise we'll all get
electricouted (sp?) because we've short out the keyboard.
Life is never easy, eh? A long time ago, there was no light at night so
people never ventured out after dark unless they were very brave or very
strong or had torches. Now, people stay out all night. I read somewhere
that scientist think that the amount of light pollution in cities is bad
for our health. We don't get enough of "darkness." THat's why
plants don't grow as well in cities. Do you believe? Maybe that's why
chinese people are so short... same as big city people. Too much light!
Sometimes I wonder how HK people have any bone growth at all. You don't
get any sun! Where do you get your vitamin D? I have been trying to get
more sun because, as you know, the winters are very long here and it gets
very dark very early (streetlights don't help vitamin D mah
) Some people actually start experiencing problems if they haven't stored
up enough vitamins. Too much knowledge is not good huh? If you're not
scared of one thing, you're scared of something else.
Glad to see Ah Mui is getting stronger. Maybe it really was sleep inducing
medicine. I'm glad. I wouldn't wish throat sores on anyone. Strep throat
is bad enough already!
Yes, I agree with you. Health comes first, anything else can wait. Yes,
for those of us who are dead worried about Anita for the past one month or
so, we want a HEALTHY Anita.
When I was in HK watching the concerts from 06/11 to 08/11, my heart ached
each night. I admire her fighting spirit. I admire her courage and
determination. At the same time, I felt sad and moody. Of course, there's
no doubt that she did her BEST and gave her BEST. It was a mixed feeling
that could not be put into words.
Whatever religion/belief we have, let us pray for her and her health.
Hi Eve
I agree I hope that those money maniacs will not use Anita as a slot
machines... Anita must prioritize things, HEALTH comes after all. I really
hope that she can rest, it's good to hear that she deferred her trip to
Kyoto. Al Qaeda is threatening Japan to attack Tokyo should the government
decides to send in troops to help Iraq.... Anita is safer at home and this
will give her some more time for rest.
Yes I totally agree with you, whatever our religious belief is, Anita will
be in our prayers.
Yes, I completely agree with you guys. I don't think any fan of Anita in
the right frame of mind would have requested for additional shows in view
of her health condition.
This is a good one from Woodstock: "忠言逆耳, 但不吐不快.
如果我得罪了梅姐或任何人也沒有辦法.
因為我覺得做任何事都應適可而止, 不可太過份.
既然已証明靠意志力可以完成自己想做的事.
這次已帶給了社會一個正面的訊息, 就應收手.
不然一定有反效果."
Dear Webmaster,
I believe the message is real, the side effect is bring from the
treatment, but I still very worry about Anita. I am really afraid that
Anita is lie to us, is her character that she don't want anyone worry
about her.
Woodstock
IP: 218.103.136.81
Nov 1st, 2003 - 6:00 AM
Re: 一定要為梅姐打氣!
Sze Man:
其實我也很擔心阿梅的身體. 擔心她是否有體力應付8
場演唱會. 但是她認為可以,
作為歌迷就要尊敬她的決定及全力支持她,
對她一定要有信心. 所以我想大家向好的方面看. 到時
worse to worse 就減少幾場 lor. 所以 Madonna fans
叫我們和她一起唱....是一個很好的提議.
Was happy and relieved to see Sandra Ng didn't mind to be an eyesore for
others when coming to pay homage to Anita Mui. All this because nobody
wants to regret for the rest of their life for not doing what is right. I
believe after filming the movie "Yi Kuan Gun Mu" where Anita was
suddenly became a supporting star, Anita didn't really hold grudges
against Sandra Ng. But facing and becoming friend again was a difficult
decision and situation as it would constantly remind Anita that her
popularity and position rating has been dropping gradually. If I were
Anita, I would do the same. If Sandra could put up enormous effort to
pacify the critics and misunderstandings and not to give wrong impression
to Anita as though she is now more popular than Anita, I think they can
still be good friends. Just that because everybody is so busy and nobody
cares to mind or try to understand the others that the whole situation
became worse.
Same to go to Andy Lau. If at that time, he could try to understand better
Anita and to tolerate her complaints and anger and not until he knew Anita
had cancer where it was too late............. I'm sure now that Andy Lau
had the same situation for his latest movie with Sammi.....
ML
IP: 203.116.120.120
Jan 21st, 2004 - 9:31 PM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
Although I admire Andy Lau's for his professionalism and diligence, but I
think at times, he may have been wrong at some time especially on his
invitation for Anita to film in his movie as stated. The entertainment
industry could be very materialistic and a promise maynot be a promise at
times. At that time, Andy was at his peak but Anita was struggling to
accept leading role in acting and she was optimistic and happy to be
entitled the role but at the end, she was turned to supporting actress.
Imagine how much hurt she was, and worse, the trust he had put on Andy had
indeed given her a lifetime lesson that she could trust nobody anymore.
Furthermore, Andy was not only the leading male actor, but also the boss
of the movie. He surely had the power to decide who could be the leading
actress or at least treat Anita Mui and Sandra Ng equally to be the
leading actresses role.
I believe if Andy invites Anita Mui for his another movie, I don't think
Anita Mui will accept. ZhangYiMou's recent movie where Anita was invited
to film before Anita declared publicly that she had cancer was the BIGGEST
Encouragement to Anita. Since Anita's return to show business in 1995 (or
1994..), I could possibly count less than 10 movies till her departure
that Anita had filmed. Some were supporting actresses and some leading
roles were not promoted well.
Basically they are good friends but I still think this is the regret that
only Andy Lau will feel as what he is encountering now.
Frankly speaking, I love to watch Anita's movies especially those movies
that focused on her. I like more of her comedy movies and she is in par
with comedy kings such as Chow Sing Che (Stephen Chow) and Jim Carrey.
joojoo
IP: 220.255.64.249
Jan 22nd, 2004 - 2:18 AM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
i think that anita should haf know she was a supporting actress b4 she
accepted the role. if not she can just reject the role if she were to find
things the other way.
think she was probably angry with sandra over andy. imagine, if i were a
good friends wif andy, then suddenly sandra seems to snatched him over,
and pout nonsense abt loving andy in front of the press, wat will anita
feel??? JEALOUSY and BETRAYER...even with good friends, if one's attention
is diverted, u will feel jealous. i dun think andy is at fault here. he
had always treat anita as his good friend and there shouldnt be any grundy
between them maybe only a moment of fiery. thats all and they r still the
best of friends. if not, anita wunt break news of her cancer to andy
first.
many things cant be seems as we r only onlooker, wat we can do is observe
but facts are unknown. especially wif anita gone.
p.s Hope u r well over the other paradise, MUIMUI
Gloria
IP: 66.214.168.254
Jan 22nd, 2004 - 2:41 AM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
I think the reason that anita felt hurt and cheated when shooting the
movie with Sandra and Andy was that she didn't know at the first place
that she was a supporting role. If she had known and accepted it, she
would not have been hurt so badly. When she started to shoot, she found
out that the things were not the same as promised, and she felt betrayed
by someone she trusted. Personally, I think both Andy and Sandra knew
what's going on. But as anita really likes Andy, it is easier for her to
forgive him.....or she is more willing to think it is not his fault.
The reason Anita wants to shoot "Ambush" is because of the
director Zhang Yi Mou, not Andy Lau, please.
ML
IP: 203.117.157.42
Jan 22nd, 2004 - 3:14 AM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
JooJoo, your comment has indirectly implied that Anita was the kind of
woman who place her jealously above her pride and dignity? Do u know that
everybody knew Sandra was dating with her director boyfriend at that time?
If Anita is the kind of woman you think she is, then she should had been
very mad with her Japanese boyfriend and others and talked back about
them. She is compassionate and caring and always trying to protect her
previous boyfriends even after their breakups despite rumours about them
being two-sided etc.
I strongly believe Anita was badly hurt because initially, she was given
the role as one of the leading female actress beside Sandra but then her
role diminished to supporting role during half-way filming.
And Gloria is right to say that Anita accept ZhangYiMou's role because of
ZhangYiMou. That is all the while what I think is the biggest
encouragement that her talent in acting is appeciated and admired.
Woodstock
IP: 218.103.196.11
Jan 22nd, 2004 - 6:59 AM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
Ah Mui would never get mad, if she knew she was playing a supporting role
at the moment when she accepted the script. As long as she liked the role,
she wouldn't really care if it was supporting or leading role, as she
played a supporting role in Eighteen Spring, and in her last movie [July
Rhapsody] though leading role, not a big part.
For [Dance for a dream], even Sandra Ng said she didn't know how someone
talked Ah Mui to take part in the movie. By my over observation, Ah Mui
didn't know many of her parts were cut until she watched the premiere show
herself, In other words she became a supporting role without knowing it in
the first place, and then without being informed when her parts were cut.
That was why she was so depressed that she felt betrayed by someone she
trusted. But then it was mentioned that something to her seemed to be so
important, while the other party didn't think was that important. So it is
entirely different point view of value. The other party didn't intend to
hurt her intentionally.
Talking about this movie, not only Ah Mui felt disappointed actually many
audience (they are not Mui's fans) felt being cheated, because they went
purposely to see Ah Mui as she was known to be a good dancer, but it
turned out to be another "Wu Nor" movie.
But no matter Ah Mui was popular or not, she was still reckoned by all
directors as the best, and most talented actress, otherwise she wouldn't
win the best actress for her role in [July Rhapsody] in Changchun Film
Festival. And Zhang Yimou would not have invited her for that "almost
her last movie". But her movies didn't really sell recent years, it
is only because of the culture of Hong Kong, because Hong Kong people
(people who go for Chinese movies) don't really know how to appreciate the
performing skill of an actor/actress, they are more interested in cast or
some instinct laughter. Anyway, Hong Kong market is so small. But with the
open up of China market for Hong Kong movies, if Ah Mui didn't pass away,
with her role in Zhang Yimous' movie and another movie by Ann Hui, her
success in movie could really be up to another peak. It is a regret also a
loss to those who really appreciate her performing talent.
As for her friendship with Andy Lau, it was purely a friendship. It was
not fair always said that she was in love with him. She was too good
natured to retort that, but she explained that it was a beautiful
misunderstanding. Also everyone knows who Andy Lau's girl friend is , so
Mui would not be that silly to be in love with him.
Anyway, Mui never failed her friends and always so true to them. But those
who didn't treat her well would regret for life, of course provided they
have any conscience, and that is why Ah Mui kept on telling us treasure
the one around us. In the complicated environment of entertainment
industry, I daresay it is really difficult to get another friend as true
and loyal like Ah Mui.
ML
IP: 203.116.120.46
Jan 22nd, 2004 - 8:24 AM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
Wholeheartedly agree with Woodstock although we may have slightly
different observations on the cause.
Anita once said that she was not secretly in love with Andy as the media
used to think. She merely likes but not loves, purely the kind of love of
a friendship with Andy. I think she admires Andy, the way she admires Tou
Jie and other talented, responsible individuals. She was very true and
because of her sincerity and her upbringing of being neglected since very
young, it was also one of her shortcoming that she was sensitive and
easily hurt, as claimed by Eddie. She was hurt partly because it was her
acting career that had been affected greatly, but she hurt more because
she had been truthful and honest towards genuine friendships and she felt
once again neglected (especially of her feelings) and this time by two of
her best friends.
How I wish I could be Anita's friend or her dog/cat, give her full
supports and be more sensitive to her especially when she was down,
depressed and sick. If Anita wasn't in the show business, I wish I could
marry her.
Woodstock
IP: 218.103.197.98
Jan 23rd, 2004 - 3:41 AM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
ML: you have spoken for many of us, as most of us wished to be her
cat/dog, but she was just too high up there beyond our reach.
I hope you are not the one shouting at every show : [Marry me!]....I'm
just joking.
ML
IP: 203.116.120.189
Jan 23rd, 2004 - 6:07 AM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
Woodstock and all:
I'm sorry that I may have unintentionally misleading you and others that
I'm a Hongkonger. I'm a Malaysian, a Singapore PR and working in
Singapore, and I was busy with my projects, working day and night (till
midnight) that I couldn't spend time coming to HK to go for her shows.
Also, Singapore newspapers seldom reported on her status and I didn't know
that she was pretty sick at that time. Furthermore, the last tv show she
was in wasn't shown in Singapore and even her filming in her last
advertisement in Kyoto wasn't reported before her demise, as far as I can
tell. Don't scold if I would to tell you that she was very pretty (with
her wig of long hair) when she was very sick. I was astonished that she
could be that pretty as she used to be quite boyish (with her short hair)
most of the time. She should have kept her hair long as it suits her more
and make her looks feminine.
In Malaysia, even a small village where majority are Hokkiens and other
dialects as far back as 80s, Anita has never failed to mesmerise them with
her unique vocal and superb singing and acting.
I had visited Hongkong 3 times. The third time was the recent one, to pay
last respect to Anita. I entered HK as individual and on 9 and 10th, went
to the funeral home and was stunned to see so many reporters waiting
outside the hall. Couldn't get any closer as I don't wish myself to be on
the newspapers or tv. No choice but to stand far away on the bridgeover,
looking at the fourth floor where the newspaper said the her body was
placed. I wasn't crying, feeling anxious but relieved that I can be so
close (few metres) to her.
On 11th, queued up to pay last respect and pretended as Hongkonger (I'm a
Cantonese) to get rid of reporters who were interested in interviewing
foreigners. Shame on me that I didn't know that the red packet presented
to visitors contains sweet to eat right after the visit until I saw others
opened it and ate the sweet, after approximately 1-2 hours.
On 12th morning, I was standing opposite the funeral home where the
ceremony begun at 11.00am and at 12.30pm, she was wheeled out and sent to
the crematorium. It was so crowded and I'd to make my way out and managed
to fetch a cab there. By the time I reach there, Anita's nephew already
pressed the button to have her body cremated. I wasn't known and when
there were crowds calling names, I thought she has not arrived yet and I
started to peek from very far away and then I realized the crowds were
calling those stars who came and ready to board buses to leave the
crematorium.
Then, I saw her fans standing at the other end and I saw the smoke coming
out and I knew I came late. I wasn't crying, maybe because the solemn
atmosphere had already over but I'm glad that I came and I'd no regret. I
slowly walked down the hill and at Chai Wan's shopping centre, I managed
to buy Anita's latest CDs of her classical concert and I catch the bus
home to NorthPoint Ibis. I stayed there till 17th to catch flight back to
Singapore.
On 16th, I went to Mandarina Duck to redeem Ming Pao's booklets on Anita,
the same booklet I received when I attended the public tribute to Anita on
11th. I must praise Ming Pao for the complimentary VCD of Anita that I can
tell you couldn't find it in Singapore or Malaysia. All the while, I used
to buy HK magazine of past copies from selected stores in Singapore (those
published this week in HK will be available only in Singapore 2 or 4 weeks
later) and the price not cheap (in S$) that it could double the original
selling price in HK dollars equivalent.
Ever since the third visit, I can now tell you I Love Hong Kong and
whenever there is disaster like Sar, I feel the same pain too. Once I've
established my business, HK could be my first oversea venture for
investment. The next time I visit HK, I must go to pay visit to Anita
where her tablet is placed.
Sorry for my long essay and I must apologize also for some of my words and
replies may be harsh and sound like teaching others lessons. I'm still at
learning stage although my age is slightly younger than Anita.
Wish you all Happy Chinese New Year. To all Chinese, please remember your
mother tongue is Chinese and value yourself as global Chinese throughout
the world. (I am Malay-educated and I learned Chinese through lyrics, I
can read Chinese, I can speak and like to speak Cantonese but I can barely
write...).
Regards.
juliana
IP: 67.68.61.29
Jan 23rd, 2004 - 6:36 PM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
Ah mui is a person who looks good in any hair style. With her short hair,
she looks more cute and with her long hair, i guess u can say, more
sophisticated. But anyhow, Mui jeh is very different from other people.
Not only because she can look good in any hairstyle but just
everything.........
u know the old English rhyme: Little girls are made of "sugar and
spice and everything nice!"...
Anita is that, plus many more great qualities no one can truly ever
possess.
-To all fans around the world:
+May 2004 be a better one.+
Woodstock
IP: 218.103.202.236
Jan 25th, 2004 - 5:53 AM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
ML;
Actually when you left your first message in this forum, you already
mentioned that you are Malaysian. So you didn't really mislead anyone.
You are such a devoted fan of Ah Mui, so I thought that you might have
come for the concert. Of course, never mind la, as I told all other fans,
their work is the priority.
Also whether you came for the concert is not so important, as long as you
treasure what Mui left us and the moment you spent with her, that is more
important than anything else. Some of the fans might have attended 8 shows
but never knew what's going on, because they had been talking so loud
throughout the shows........it was rather annoying, that was actually
mentioned by other fans under the thread of concerts. Most of them were
Hong Kong fans, because it cost them less to go to the concert than those
overseas fans. Also it is the general bad manner of HK
audience........culture lo.
BTW, what did you do with the $1.00 you got from the funeral parlor? Hope
you didn't keep it, because you had to spend it right away too.
ML
IP: 203.117.157.23
Jan 25th, 2004 - 6:24 AM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
Woodstock:
I didn't know where I'd put the HK$1.00 after I threw away the red packet.
I think most probably I'd pocketed it with my other coins to buy
newspapers and magazines. Again I must be honest to you that I have never
seen Anita in person, that's my greatest regret and I'm ashamed of myself,
having to write again and again trying to find justice for her, as though
I've known her for so long. I just want to understand her more and more
and stand by her and voice out my unhappiness whenever I read any articles
deemed unfair and to demand justice on her behalf. I act more like an
observer. How I wish her big fans who had seen her and talked to her could
write to any of your two forums about their experiences and encounters
with Anita, or at least to correct me and others should there be any need.
I do not expect anybody to reply to my topics but I wish Anita's fans and
those who loves her to write new topics or reply to others if necessary as
I see a need to keep your two forums going active, the only source that I
could keep on talking and finding more about Anita from her fans. Anita
has been my family, my part-time wife/sister/daughter at least for now.
I'd seen your topic regarding your encounter with Anita, presenting her
bouquet of flower that she appeared in newspapaper, pictured with your
flowers. Wow, the kind of excitement I could figure out.....
I've question here is why she climbed up the staircase (how many levels)
and is there a need for her to dance when this concert is classified as
'Classical'? Did she do that in all the 8 shows? If yes, it's a MIRACLE.
You know, a slight twist of her body, slight movement of her legs,
shouting and laughing could be a lifetime pain that is so so unbearable
(the pain I could visualize a hundreds if not thousand of the bites of red
ants).
Thanks again for your forums.
ML
IP: 203.116.120.226
Jan 25th, 2004 - 9:22 AM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
Sorry too fast again, never read before posting. Must emphasize MIRACLE
WITHIN MIRACLE and not 'miracle' only (typo error). And thanks for reading
and whether any of you reply or not to mine and others' topics' I know you
all are reading. Just that your love for Anita is 'Words cannot
express" but hope that you all do not mind to share with us,
especially some of us who have never seen Anita in person, let alone an
autobiography from Anita.
You know what I used to have this very strong misconception that the show
business (entertainment industry) has no true love, no true friendship and
everything seems to be too materialistic and fake, but with Anita's
departure, I'm deeply touched and realized there still be true love, true
friendship exists for minority in the much much complicated entertainment
industry. Anita has changed my perception and value and I can say that she
is not only the heroes of today and future show business, but also one of
the heroes of today and future Chinese around the world.
Leelee
IP: 195.243.11.13
Jan 26th, 2004 - 8:54 PM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
u guys're sooo funny, wishing to be mui jie's dog/cat. it shows how much u
love her.
i find mui jie very attractive: she was beautiful in the '90 concert &
the 10th anniversary concert, fit as a fiddle in the '95 concert,
breathtaking in fantasy gig, not to mention the many attractive characters
she played esp in Au Revoir Mon Armour, Shanghai2, Savior of the Soul '91,
Heroic Trio & Executioners
she was evil in kawashima! yes she played many different characters!
Woodstock
IP: 219.77.90.52
Jan 27th, 2004 - 5:27 AM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
ML:
It is really a pity if you never saw Mui in her concert or in person. On
the other hand, it might be better for you. The reason is that after you
saw her concert you would never like to go to any other's concert. And
after you saw her in person, you would become addicted, you wanted to see
her more. Right now, you are luckier than many of us, because we grieve so
much that we cannot see her anymore, and I would never go to any other
concert, no more concert pictures.
Those fans who have seen Mui in person, they would all agree with me that
Mui looked prettier than in photos. She was so stylish and she would
mesmerize you. She was very feminine but also looked very authoritative.
But she was also cute like a little sweet girl when she started to dance
to entertain us at her birthday party. When you cheered her up by
applauding, she would stop and smile sweetly and then continued again.
About the Classic Moment Live concert. she didn't really have to dance,
except the quick steps with the Spanish dancers. But when singing and
moving around simultaneously, not easy for a normal person, so I really
surprised that Ah Mui could handle it. As it was mentioned in some other
writings , she looked quite out of breath for the first part of the first
show, it was because she still did the original dance when she was singing
"Drunk in dream" - lots of movements when she knelt on the
floor. So she was out of breath when she got up. I guess she cut out the
dancing part in other shows, as I didn't see her moving too much in the
8th show.
Basically Mui didn't like standing still to sing. Though she didn't have
to dance for the last concert, she still moved around from one side of the
stage to the other, how frequent depended on her physical condition on
that day. She didn't climb the stairs during the 1st show, but she did
during the last show (I don't know about the shows in between). I think
she tried to let more people have a chance to shake her hand and she liked
to experience the warmth of audience once more.
You are right it was dangerous. On the first day, I was excited that I was
able to give her the flowers, but you know she had to stretch out to get
it just as I had to stretch out to give her. Afterwards I told myself it
was so dangerous for her, if she really fell off the stage, I would be
guilty for my life.
So during the last show, I worried so much when she bent down to accept
little toys from so many fans, and so many times. If she got dizzy, she
would just tumble off the stage, even the security guard standing beside
her would not be quick enough to hold her back. I was murmuring to my
friend next to me that she should not do that. Even Cheung Man Yee sitting
beside me, was wondering why they gave her so many
toys...........sigh.......but Mui satisfied her fans by accepting all the
gifts they presented her herself ..........of course, now we understand
she knew very well this would be the last time.
Oh well, once started to talk about Mui, I got so much sweet memories of
her. She will be in one chamber of my heart for the rest of my life.
ML
IP: 203.116.123.86
Jan 27th, 2004 - 5:28 AM
Re: Try to understand Anita's situation
Woodstock: Thanks for sharing with us such a treasure that this is the
first time, I can be so close to know her from her fans. Your comments and
encounters with Anita will be part of my collection.
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